Dealing With Worry 03: Take Control

Last week, we looked at the biggest reason for worry which is the fact that we often let things totally out of our control concern us and get into our thinking.

What is ironic is that the second biggest reason for worry is out failure to take control of what we should take control of.

God, life, your job, your family, your place in life, your ministry, has given you certain things that you are in charge of. When you are in charge, stop worrying about a problem, man up, face that problem and fix it.

  • As a dad, I don’t worry about my children being disrespectful because if they are, they will be disciplined.
  • I don’t worry about Tree of Life Church being an unloving place because I am the leader and I will lead it into love
  • I never worry about my weight. I’ve lost over 100lb because I finally realized I am in control of what I eat, when I exercise, and so on

It’s amazing to me how many people are worried about things they can change. 

This morning I woke up at 3am because I have to get a plane to Bulgaria, I am teaching at a conference.

Now there are two types of problems I may face on the way – things I am in control of, things I am not in control of.  Either way, I hope you realize I am not going to worry.

I actually woke up with a stabbing pain in my left eye and reduced vision.  That’s something I am in control of. I spoke life and health to my eye and now the pain is gone and my sight is back.  Rather than worry, I took charge, used my authority in Christ and changed things.

But what if I get there and the plane is not flying? What if a problem arises I cannot control? Well, I don’t worry then either, as I will mind my own business and walk with God and keep a clean conscience.

Life can be that easy.  You may disagree, you may feel you have to worry, but we will hit that next week!

Eat the Frog!

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Mark Twain famously said “If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first.”

What does this mean for us as we seek motivation on this Monday morning?

It means that most likely there is something on your to-do list that you just do not want to do. It is the thing you are most likely to leave to tomorrow. It’s the thing you are going to leave forever and never get done, but it has to be done.

In other words, look at your to-do list for today, for the week, and find the thing you don’t want to do but have to do, and just do it right now.  Once you have done it, your week can only get easier and you will have a better mindset than you had before doing it.

You know what the frog is – you know what you want done in your to-do list but you don’t want to do. If you wait until the end of the day or the end of the week to do it, it is staring at you all day and sucking your motivation, building pressure, playing on your mind and causing you unhappiness.

So many people start their day doing what they want to do, and don’t even need to do. To be a success today, do that thing you need to do, even if you don’t want to.  Grow up, and eat that frog!

Family #feelgoodfriday


What makes you feel good?  Family is one of the things that makes me feel good, had a great time playing board games with the three of my children that still live at home this evening, and now watching Countdown with my sons as my daughter is in bed.

You have to take aside time for doing things that make you feel good.  You have to enjoy the journey to tomorrow today.

Tomorrow is an elder’s meeting, training leaders always makes me feel good!

Have a great weekend people!

How to Dream Big 01: Look Forward!

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For the next few weeks I want to focus on dreaming big. One of the ways you guarantee yourself a better future is to dream big. To deliberately use your imagination to imagine a great future. You need to see that God has a huge plan for your life. You need to see that God believes in you. You need to see that God is on your side.

But before I can help you get your mind on your great future, I need to help you get your mind off your past. Living in the past is a killer! It is deadly! Living in the past will kill your dreams, kill your potential, kill your self-confidence, kill your God-confidence.

Now all of you reading this have different pasts. Some of you will have horrific pasts, involving abuse and neglect. Others will have average pasts, others amazing pasts. But all of your pasts have one thing in common – they are over!

Many people are held back by negative emotions from thoughts of their past. They are scared people will find out what they have thought and done. They feel regret, they feel shame, they feel they wish they had never met a certain person, done a certain act. They feel emotions that are incredibly hard to shift and deal with.

But I want you to know today: God can help you shift from your past. Your past does not have to define you another day. It’s time for a new beginning and we can have one today! If you want a new beginning, Thursdays are the day for you in the new few weeks and months.

I want you to stop praying about the past, stop meditating on the past, stop rehearsing your past mistakes and past hurts, stop dreaming about past relationships. I want you to go to bed tonight not haunted by your past.

God allowed you to be born with a purpose and a destiny and a future. God wants you to be defined by your future success not your past failures. God wants you to know that holding onto your past is killing your future potential and it is time to let you.

I am such a strong advocate that God has a future dream for you, and I want all of you to know that God loves you and has a great plan for your future. No matter what has happened in your past, God can still use you. God wants to use you. I do not want you to die with your potential unlocked. I want you free from your past – there is too much to do in this nation and in this generation for you to be looking back in anger all the time!

In Luke 17.32 Jesus gave everyone of us a very specific instruction. He said: “Remember Lot’s wife!” Have you obeyed that instruction of the Master this week?  Have you remembered Lot’s wife?

Have you thought about Genesis 19 this week, have you thought about God about to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah because of their wickedness and their corroded and broken lives full of sin and shame? God loved these people so much but they were doing nothing but imagining new ways to sin and new ways to hurt people.

Have you thought about God’s love preserving Lot and rescuing him and his family from the destruction?  Have you thought that God only gave them one simple instruction as he delivered them: don’t look back.

Have you remembered that Lot’s wife didn’t even obey one simple instruction and she looked back, even though God was saving her from certain destruction? Have you considered that she valued her past more than her future? Have you remembered that sometimes you remember your past more than your future, and that doing so will kill your potential?

Have you ever wondered what Lot’s wife’s destiny was? I wonder what plans God had to prosper her and to give her a hope and a life of abundance? Have you wondered what her story would be if she looked forward? Would you and I know her name, and not have to keep calling her “Lot’s wife”? Would her life have had some purpose and some destiny?

I want this story to shake you up a little. I want to not just inspire you today, but to really challenge you – I want to alarm you a little. Remember alarms are to wake you up, and I want you to wake up: to remain in your past in your mind will kill your future because you cannot dream and reminisce at the same time.

Looking back will make you as useful to the kingdom of God as a pillar of salt. Your past is over, it’s gone.  Everything yesterday is over. God wants to do something new and powerful in your life, but He cannot do it if you are lingering in your past!

Let Love Lead You!

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It’s frightening to me how many people have no idea of the task in life they are assigned for and the destiny they are called to.

Let love lead you into your destiny.

Today, ask yourself and write down:

  • The tasks that you have a passion for
  • The people that you have compassion for

Where these intersect is definitely the right direction for you to move forward.  Where the people you love and the tasks you love meet, I guarantee that this is a sign post to your destiny and your dream, and crafting the life you love!

Dealing With Worry 02: The Biggest Reason for Worry

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Last week we discussed the importance of dealing with worry as an enemy, and that is very important. Today we are going to look at the leading cause of worry, and what I am about to say you may never have considered before, but I want you to carefully consider this as it will, if listened to and appreciated, change your life for the better.

The number one cause of worry is trying to taking responsiblity for and authority over things that God never wanted and does not want us to have responsibility for and authority over.

If you can grasp this then you will be able to deal with worry in your life. 1 Thess. 4.11 in the NLT tells us to “mind your own business and do the thing you are commanded to do”. Do you realize all of paradise was lost because both Adam and Eve didn’t mind their own business and do the thing they were commanded to do. We often are found in disobedience to the commands of God when we are refusing to mind our own business.

One of the biggest reasons people worry is that they do not mind their own business, it worries them about how the country is doing, what the pastor of the church they left is doing, what their adult and now-married children are doing, what the neighbours are doing and so on.

People seem to enjoy poking their nose into other people’s business and telling them how to do their job. That will lead to worry and anxiety. You shouldn’t even treat the people who work for you like that! Respect what God has given other people to do, and I promise you will immediately worry less!

I’ve seen people get involved in correcting other people’s children, other people’s church culture, other people’s anything.  Here’s a new thought: mind your own business. You are causing your self needless anxiety.

Recently a pastor in the UK did something a bit foolish and a bit strange, and a couple of other pastors approached me and said “You should talk to him, you are respected, he will listen to you”. I said “I don’t know him that well, we have only ever met in person two times, and I don’t have the right to push something heavy over such a flimsy bridge”.  What was I doing – minding my own business.  Some of the other pastors are getting worked up like he works for them, and he doesn’t.  Me, I don’t worry at all. It’s not my sphere of authority. Now if he asks me for help, that’s different, but I am talking about not poking your nose in where it is not wanted and not asked for. Doing this will save you loads of worry and anxiety that would otherwise be yours.

Or to quote St Francis of Assissi, give me the patience to accept what I cannot change.

The number one cause of worry is this: not accepting what you cannot change. You are not the god of this universe. Your authority is amazing, but it is limited – especially where other people are concerned. Why not today choose to trust God to help other people?  He helped you when you were procrastinating, getting it wrong, missing the mark – He can help others.

You will sleep better at night when you are minding your own business and not poking your nose and heart into the affairs of others that you will never be in control of.



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One of the things we can get wrong is putting urgent things at the top of our to-do list.  If we are constantly doing the urgent then the important will not get done.  Take at least one day a week to ignore the urgent, ignore the emails and the messages and the phone and the demands of what *must* be done now, and do what is important.

What is important:

  • Things that only you can do.
  • Things that contribute to building your dream
  • Things that enable you to be more full of the Spirit and the Word


Feel Good Friday

Sorry, it’s now Saturday morning.  My Friday was so feel-good, I didn’t take the time to blog!  Ooops!


What makes me feel good right now is that the summer of miracles has truly began with Joan Hunter last night in Dagenham and tonight in Watford. Just really powerful stuff, many healings and miracles, not to mention words of knowledge and prophetic words.

And it doesn’t stop when Joan leaves – we have miracles on Sunday morning too!

Makes me feel good!