DO SAY “This church is lovely, I enjoyed the worship and the choir, your pastor is a great guy, thanks for inviting me”

DON’T SAY “My youth choir is bigger than your entire church! What are you doing?”

DO SAY “You have a great pastor in this church, you should commit to this church”

DON’T SAY “I am about to call your pastor out and prophesy over him”, because the subtext is “I am a great man of God, I am superior to your pastor”. Now, if you are the head of the network, or a spiritual father to the pastor, that’s different.

DO SAY “Thanks for having me”

DON’T SAY “I look forward to you all inviting me back”

DO SAY (in private to the pastor) “My airfare was £X, my travel was £X”

DON’T SAY “Time for me to receive my own offering everyone, dig deep!”

DO SAY “Your church has a conference coming up, you should go, it will be good”

DON’T SAY “My church has a conference coming up, you should go, it will be good”

DO SAY “Your church has a Bible College, that’s a good idea if you want to get to know the Word more”

DON’T SAY “My church has a Bible College that’s a good idea if you want to get to know the Word more”

DO SAY “I really appreciate being here today”

DON’T SAY “It’s a good thing I am here, you need me”

DO SAY “I’m off home now”

DON’T SAY “I’m planting a church across the road, you are all welcome this Sunday”

DO SAY “Let me encourage you with Word”

DON’T SAY “Let me correct you with the Word”

DO SAY “I can’t wait to invite your pastor to minister for me soon”

DON’T SAY “I can’t wait for your pastor to invite me again soon”